5 minutes free write; I beg to differ.

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Am I happy for her, obviously yes but after some careful considerations, I beg to differ. How would you feel if a so called friend whom you thought you had a good connection with and it’s even your strong confidant after some months of keeping you out of their lives comes and send you a message in your DM thats they got engaged.

At the spur of the moment, I was genuinely happy and till now I am still happy for her but I’ve been having a rethink.

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How do you deal with secretive friends? A little back story here. This is a good friend who of course we talk, gist and eat together and confined in each other. Well maybe mostly me cos she rarely talks about herself or personal life and I didn’t even mind.

I am not the type to get nosy about people’s business. I think you should trust me enough to open to me. She travelled out of the town for months now and has really been distant. I’ve been the one trying to reach out and all and it’s kinda tiring.

We had a little issue and she became more distant. I feel she’s kinda made up her mind to keep me out of her life and am kinda pained that it’s taking me so long to even notice. Yea, I know am ranting.

Well long story short, she sent me a message thats she’s been engaged. In six months and she’s never for once even mentioned that she was in a relationship. She fact that she is even getting married to someone that we both know and yet not a single mention.

How could people be that secretive. Am genuinely happy for her but am feeling like a fool. How do you make people a part of your life and they treat you like a stranger?

I just told myself that I am going keep mute and see how this all plays out. I don’t know why most of my lady friends behave like this. I don’t know if it’s a woman factor but it’s awkward.

I just felt pained and not valued especially when I thought I had a friend in this person but it’s obvious I was befriending myself. You don’t force people to make you a part of their lives right?

I will just keep mute and watch where all of this will lead to. Last last, everyone will be fine.

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Aww, sorry to hear that @babygirl888. You offered her friendship, and it's her loss. Let her be and just continue being yourself. As long as your intentions are good and your conscience is clear, that’s what truly matters. We can’t control other people’s behavior, they have their own reasons too. One day, she may tell you why. A good friend will always leave the door open. Do good, show good, and everything will fall into place.

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That's tough! It's not about being petty or unsupportive, it's about the emotional whiplash of being shut out by someone you thought would always be there. People have their paths to follow, and in the end, things tend to work themselves out. It's good to protect your peace and let things unfold naturally. Take care ❤️

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