The Uneasy Task of Asking for Help

A person going through some hard times is expected to seek help. When a situation or period becomes overwhelming and overbearing for a person, asking for help is generally the expected approach, and rightly so. These overbearing and overwhelming times, or just times of need, but not really a deep one, tend to take a toll on a person, especially after trying and hoping for some outcome, but to no avail.

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We see a pattern, especially in today's world, where people shy away from asking for help despite being in dire need of it. What could make a person in such a state not ask for the very thing he or she needs? What's it that makes it difficult for people to ask for help, though in need of it? It's a deep conversation and a big concern. Many times, we could think such people are just too proud to ask for help, but is it really so?

Yes, some people find it hard to ask for help because they're too proud to do so. They feel it's a stain on them as individuals. More often than not, this isn't always the case or the major reason why people find it difficult to ask for help. There are several reasons apart from and far from the mentioned. It's wrong then to put a stereotype on it that people not asking for help are simply too proud to do so. When we look at some of the reasons why, we'll see it.

It's important to know that people can be vulnerable, as humans that we are. Being that, people would rather keep their problems and issues to themselves, rather than seek help from people due to the likes of mockery and proud, undignified statements about helping them. To anyone, whether at a vulnerable place or not, it does something to you when someone behaves this way towards you, especially when they call themselves your friend.

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Some people have experienced such humiliation which made them vow to never ask for help, even if it means not getting the problem solved. For some, even without such experience, they already find it difficult to ask for help because of experiences they've heard and maybe seen. I mean, who would want to go through that too? This has been a major reason why some people not only find it difficult to seek help, but they tend to decline unsolicited offers as well.

Another reason people find it difficult to ask for help is that some people, normally, have learnt not to ask for help. Is this a case of having all that they need? Maybe, or not. It could be a case of them coming from homes or places where asking for help isn't really a thing. For whatever need or problem, there isn't a call for solicited help. The help could just come around or they find a way around it. Hence, it's difficult for such people to ask for help.

Ultimately, asking for help today is more difficult than ever. You can't blame people, except that it tends to hurt them and their loved ones. The world has become very inhumane, we've lost a lot of humanity. Acts of help become recorded in people's minds and used for bragging and mockery when a situation provides, or even when it doesn't. How will people find it easy to seek help? Away from these reasons and concerns, let's learn to ask for help when we need it.

Thank you for reading!