Don't Shrink So That Others Can Feel Tall

I think one of the biggest mistakes we can ever make as people is to try to hide who we really are just to make others feel comfortable. Maybe you're too good at something or you've got a friend you're way more attractive than and for the sake of modesty you limit yourself so they don't feel bad.

I have seen this happen many times even in my own life. Sometimes in school, at work or even among family members, people try to hold back their ideas and their talent because they do not want to look too smart or too confident. Just so the other party won't feel weak or get jealous.

This is a very wrong thing to do and you're only denying yourself, and to tell you the truth, if the tables were turned and you seemed the weak one, the person you're holding back for, would not have held back for you.

Every single person is given something special, something that makes them unique and the idea of mother nature was not for you to hide it but to bring it out to its fullest. You might have a talent, a dream, a voice an IQ. Let it all out of you. You were born with something but you're supposed to die after you've given it all out, your very best.

If you choose to hide it, you are not only cheating yourself but also the world around you.

Shrinking or holding back on your fullest potential does not really help anyone. The person who asks you to be smaller does not truly grow because they won't be challenged to grow.

Let's say you were twins and one was taller than the other. The shorter of the twins has a decision to make in their mind, wish you were as tall as your other twin or wish your other twin was short like you so you don't feel and look bad. That would determine whether you'll improve or not. If you choose for people to diminish so you don't look bad, then you won't grow. You need to look at it from a perspective of getting better and not others getting worse for you to look better because you'll just look, but you won't really be.

You keep shrinking and hiding and over time, you may even forget how strong you are because you have been bending down for too long.

This is an absolutely sad way to live.

And for you who has the upper hand, the advantage, the special talent or traits or gifts that is envied by the people around you, this is my advice. True greatness is not about making those around you look small but it is about standing tall and encouraging others to do the same. When you stand in your full height, you give people something to look up to, to admire and to be inspired to rise with. I always had anxiety with public speaking, when I see someone speaking with courage, it inspires me to also be brave. I don't envy or hope they make a mess of themselves.

Never feel guilty for being better, stronger and successful. If anyone feels small because of your progress, that is their problem to fix, not yours. You need to keep going that's all.

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