How people reveal themselves when you set boundaries

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When you have a toxic person there are signs that will tell you. This simple guide will let you know whether you're dealing with a toxic person or if you're being toxic yourself.

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Last week, someone told me I couldn’t do something. It was a really small thing, but it sent my mind racing to what I could’ve done wrong and if they were mad at me. I received a no but turned it from that small thing into something about me feeling bad.

This is how I am still affected by their answer. A lot of people talk about a person in their life who is toxic and how they react to your boundaries but rarely do you hear or see how you react when someone sets limits on you. Do you become quiet and punish them with your silence? Do you become busy or do you say fine and mean not really?

I know a woman who has the ability to read people really well. She told me that she can tell everything she needs to know about a person in the first time they disagree, not argue, but disagree. She also said that the majority of people don’t realize they are being unreasonable. They think they are being reasonable.

This is the part that keeps coming back to me, the true belief I have. Someone making you feel guilty for setting a boundary is going to look you in the eye without any theatrics and will believe they have been treated unfairly.

What do you do with that? You can’t talk someone into being self aware. You can only observe what they’re doing and make a judgment call from there. You don’t have to make a big dramatic scene as you leave. Just make quiet adjustments in the way.