Leave the cage of their opinions

Real freedom comes from how little you care for approval. The less you care for approval the more free you become. I'm not talking about people that are disrespectful and disregard the opinions of everyone and just keep a constant nonchalant persona.

I believe this is one of the most powerful lessons for life. Especially these days, where Social Media has created a perfect platform for anyone to say just about anything about anyone. Most people now spend too much of their time worrying about what others think.

I post regularly on social media and that's one of the best ways to figure out how the minds of the masses work. Try putting out a controversial opinion, sometimes even factual truthful opinions and so many people have a lot to say about it. Some in support of your ideas, some very much against it.

I can't talk about opinions this week without bringing up the Charlie Kirk incident. That was a man of opinions no doubt and following his death you've seen how people online have reacted to it.

It took me two days to gather enough boldness to watch the footage of his death. Would love to keep the article (SFW) so I wouldn't even describe the scene.

Some people are virtually obsessed with approval. They dress a certain way, they speak a certain way and even make life choices just to be accepted, just to be liked, just to impress and just to be approved.

The reality and the truth is that the more you chase approval, the less free you become.

When you live your entire life for the opinions of others, you put yourself in their cage. Trust me, that is no simple cage, that cage is built with fear, the fear of judgment, the fear of rejection and the fear of being alone.

What makes this rather funny to me is that people never stop talking anyway. Even if you try your best, someone will still find a reason to criticize you. You can't achieve perfection in the eyes of everyone so don't bother embarking on that journey.

Why waste your peace of mind and freedom on their voices?

Most of us especially the youth see freedom in making a lot of money, buying the flashy expensive cars and the big houses. But do you know that those things can be taken away from you? The real freedom that cannot be taken is the freedom on the inside. When your mind is not tied to how others see you, when you stop giving too much care about their approval, you have acquired something they cannot take from you.

When you reach that point of not caring too much, you start to make choices based on your own values and not based on what will get you claps, thumbs up or social media likes. Some people have crossed lines and broken their own values just to trend and get likes from people. They believe they're thriving but actually, the people that give you the social media likes for saying what you think they would approve, have imprisoned you. They own you. Yes you have a large following, the illusion is that you control the page, but actually they're controlling your content. Your opinion is taken away by your own self.

Of course, I will emphasize that this does not mean you should be careless or rude to people. The main point is to value your own inner voice more than the crowd’s noise.

Learn to say no when you feel deep down that something does not sit right with you. Follow your own road, even if it looks strange to other people.

In my own life, I noticed that the more I stop caring for approval, the more peace I find in myself. Don’t give a fuck. Your freedom is measured by how little you need approval and that freedom is very priceless.

The quote artwork was made by me using Canva website and Polish app for editing.