The Best Revenge

Nothing speaks strength of character than having to go through so much pan and hurt from someone and you come out successful and powerful enough to do same to the person as revenge and having the will to choose otherwise.

I've seen that plot in so many movies and to have that as a quote from the legendary Marcus Aurelius further grounds the truth in that.

"The best revenge is to be unlike him who performed the injury."

If you can manage to pull that off, you can live the rest of your life priding yourself of just how much self control you have. Usually our first resort when people hurt us is to retaliate and I guess it's human nature though. But there's a difference between self defense an revenge.

I understand it when I see two nations fighting. Take for example the war between Israel and Hamas. When do you think that war will end?

The only end to it is the day they decide not to take revenge. The moe revenge they take, the more they need to take revenge against each other until one or both are completely wiped off of the face of he earth. That is no wisdom at all.

By taking revenge or giving a taste of their own medicine, we end up mirroring their behavior and we also end up losing a piece of our own integrity.

Your true strength lies in you being able to resist the urge to stoop down to their level. Choosing to rise above pettiness and cruelty is not weakness, it’s wisdom. What kind of person would you have evolved to become after you take revenge. The minute you do what they do, you basically become them, the person you disliked, you become that person.

We're to strive with every strength in us to be governed not by our emotions but by our values.

What can help you achieve this is by seeing your revenge to them in a different way. If a parent abused a kid because they had money and authority over them, life could turn tables and the kid could become rich an have some kind of power over the parent. Will the kid choose to mistreat the parent as revenge for the past? If they choose to do so, the question now would be, what's the difference between the kid and the parent now?

It's a hard thing to overcome but it's worth fighting for. The biggest reason is that if you become vengeful because of someone's actions, you basically made a statement that that someone was powerful enough to change who you are. That's not good is it?

The best form of revenge is to continue being kind, just and true to ourselves. Their actions couldn't corrupt your character, that's a win more than doing to them what they did to you.