Why love should not be defined by gender

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This is what I find really messed up. When you tell men and women and boys and girls that they each need something different from love this creates huge pressure on the relationship. Because of that it allows all parties to be off the hook. If a guy doesn't listen then that is just him being a guy. If a girl doesn't respect you then that is just because she is not wired that way.

That's easy and any time you find relationship to be easy there is always something underneath that shows that there is something to come that is bad.

All the guys I have talked to and I mean really had a conversation with, have expressed that they feel a deep longing to be truly understood by a woman. Not managed or recognised by their ability to provide value to a woman but recognised by being there. That longing doesn't go away even though when we were little kids society told us to put them aside.

As for women and respect, shouldn't most people think that is obvious? It is, but what is not so obvious, at least by many people'w statements on it, is that the general idea that women need to be heard implies that women are the emotional ones who need to be soothed, which there is some level of disrespectfulness to that idea that does not get enough analysis applied to it.

More than likely you should understand that you can be loved by someone who can give you their complete attention at least while they are doing that, when you have an issue going on with you. Someone who has a habit of telling the same joke every time there is a disagreement, hinting that he or she reads or talks a lot. And someone who constantly needs their alone time the first 15 to 30 minutes after they have got home before they are able to interact 100% with you.

That being said, you need to think very specifically about someone and not about what gender you are or what they are by gender. So much of the time people have a problem moving beyond what are called love languages to the next step of being specific.

The main reason why I had to bring this up is that I stumbled on a guide on how to make a man happy and how to make a woman happy. It's true that to some level there's a difference but man and woman but just wanted to clarify that.

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