Wooing the ladies

I was scrolling through some tweets this morning and came across a tweet that made me laugh, I spilled a little tea on the table.

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I can understand the lads on this one, some guys have just decided to stop over trying.

Another person said he hated the concept of wooing a woman, well that's the first time I've heard that term but I get it.

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The dating game is not only getting more expensive for the guys it's also getting a little more exhausting than it used to be. It's funny to me but still has some truth in it considering how things have so changed. The adults and perhaps boomers or generation X can tell you for a fact that modern dating culture is not the same as before.

A while back, you just meet someone in your area, have a little chat, you really don't need as much, what's the term the kids use these days, Rizz. And you see the friendship turns into something more intimate. It's just you and the damsel.

Nowadays, thanks to all mighty social media, a lot of things looks like a competition. The effort the gents need to put in to impress the ladies is way more because the ladies are watching what accomplished wealthy men are doing for their ladies, and even if the guys are not that wealthy, they have unique pick up lines, jokes, lot's of things to wow the lady.

Now you got the girl you're trying to date looking for more Rizz, pick up lines you have no clue of, expensive gifts, dates at expensive locations. You have to be rich and excite her and really go all out to impress her.

When as a guy, you're supposed to follow the principles of wealth and save, in your attempt to impress her, you break the bank and pretend you're richer than you really are. For some of the guys, it's really not about love anymore, now they're trying to win the girl over.

The pressure is real. A lot of young guys are already dealing with unemployment and small incomes.

The price of food, transport, housing, it's all gone up and they're trying to keep up. Even small outing activities are more expensive than they used to be.

You're trying to impress a girl while still struggling to pay rent, and she doesn't know, you're in pain.

Some guys don't want to try anymore. I see why this can happen. They say ladies, know your worth and I'm a big believer of that, I practice it. But when you make a product too expensive and nobody can afford it, the customers just decide on their own to get out of your shop.

They don't want to stress anymore. To them, if love comes, it comes, and if it doesn't they'll find other things to distract them or entertain them. There's fortnite and GTA at least.

I put a huge blame for this situation on the standards social media has set in the minds of young girls these days.

You go on TikTok, Instagram, Twitter, a lot of relationships are painted like luxury movies. The couple travel to expensive places for vacation and guys check their salary realizing it'll take the entire year's saving to do this for your date. Is it worth it though? They have already answered it.

For an average young man anywhere, that life is not realistic. There are rich guys that can afford that, but they also have a downside, chances of attracting the wrong lady is pretty high.

When the average guy dates, some of the young girls who don't have the patience to build a sustainable life and want expensive things just because they think they deserve it for some reason, put pressure on that guy to compete with the rich guy who is way ahead of them.

It's so not practical and I wouldn't advice a male friend or a brother to go down that road.

They're tired of competing with the Instagram standards. Dating has become more than their own work, it's getting ridiculous for them and hence, they've given up.

Well, I wouldn't tell a guy not to compromise for love, but over compromising is not sustainable, eventually you won't be able to continue with the relationship. A lot of guys know this so they're getting smarter. They focus on building themselves first before they go in for any lady. That's the best moves you can make especially in today's dating culture.

And if dating is too stressful, it's a sign you're probably with the wrong person. There will be difficult times no doubt, it's just how life works but when you spot a girl trying to hold you to the same standards as how some girls get treated by rich men on social media, it's a great sign to use the back door and run out of that relationship.

Relationship should not be a competition, if it feels like that, something is very wrong. It should be about the connection, the mutual respect and attraction and care and most importantly, it's a time to study each other to know whether you will be a good couple.