From Rods to Reasoning: How Parenting Has Evolved Over the Decades

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The world is changing and things change with it even when it comes to parenting, it is kind of hard comparing how parenting was back in the 80s to how it is nowadays, I wont say it was that fun back then like it is nowadays but it was full of strict rules and independence unlike the modern parenting that is full of emotions, awareness and with this digital age development. Back then, I can say the core values came from Strict discipline, there is this authority that exist back then especially from the father that the children dare not joke with, they never believe in the statement of sparing the rod and spoil the child and to make matter worse, they had a united voice, whatever the father or mother says, the other have to back it up. It felt like children don't have their own voice and they have to listen to their parent, if not, they would be punished severely unlike modern parenting where they really spoil the child, now I learnt they already scratch anything relating to punishment especially in school, no wonder most student are stubborn and do what they like in school, that act of discipline is really gone

Modern parenting hardly train their children to be independent unlike olden days parent, at younger age, they are already in the farm learning how to survive through farming, those that will hunt will hunt, some are into hand craft, tie and dye etc but nowadays parenting will still be telling a 18 years old boy that he is too young to fend for himself, what if you as a parent isn't alive anymore, how do you expect such child to survive since they have no skills, the real reality of life will drawn on them and they using the "I wish" statement when they see other thriving.

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Well at some point, if i weigh both side at tines, I wouldn't just stick with modern parenting especially when it come to parenting roles, olden days was too rigid, when it come to gender roles, it was strictly defined with no means of deviation, they believed male gender will be the breadwinners while the female are the caregivers, more reason they used to say female should receive any form of education because they will eventually end up in the kitchen and that is wrong. Nowadays, women have a career they are pursuing while also taking care of their children and nowadays men are good chef at home, I often wonder how a man life will be if he doesn't know how to cook and there is no restaurant where he can easily get food, how will he be able to survive, house chores you can't do since there is no woman to do it for you.

To end it all, I will mention the Mental health aspect which was totally ignored back then, people rarely understand what their children are going through mentally but they see such child as a weakness in the family, they always want you strong and agile and if you are not, they resorted to herbs with the hope of recovering or they just give up on you and see you as lazy. It is really hard to decide which one is good but it is best to implement some of the olden days parenting style in this modern days because we shouldn't spare that rod and spoil the child, children nowadays still need that strict hand.