RE: Hive-Naija Weekend Engagement #22 - "InterFaith Marriage"
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Good day everyone, and thanks @samostically for bringing us together again.
When talking about inter-faith marriage generally I don't think any of the religion or religious leader will support such no matter the love between those involved.
So in response to this week set of questions;
Can a marriage work with Different religion work?
I won't want to write-off the possibility of such marriage from working, since obviously we're first human before religion comes in, so both parties as a role to play in making such relationship work.
But it's a major red flag when;
- Both still maintain their former religion, it's mostly expected for women to do things their husbands way, and religion diff while spring up constant misunderstanding.
- When the lady or man made any mistake, the in-laws immediately jump in always looking for reasons why they've always felt it's wrong to marry him/her.
If you happen to be in that scenario, will you give up on love?
Firstly I'll like to say there are 99% assurance that I won't be in such scenario, but in response to your question.
I'm the kind of person who once fell in love, always give my all, and I'm not a preacher of falling out of love, the reasons why I fell in love with such person will regular plays out and that'll will serve as a reminder to always strive to make sure things work out.
So no matter the religion's such bride get involved in, I believe there must have been a mutual agreement between us before Marriage about if she'll move to my religion or not, and for me to agree that if she doesn't want to, she shouldn't, then it'll never been an issue.
do you actually look down on people with a different religion?
The difference we portray in different aspects of life is what makes us unique, and I believe without this uniqueness and individual differences, life might be boring.
And I've never looked down on people from the other religions, even though most of our preachers talks about how they're on the wrong parts and the likes, but I'm aware that's the same this their preacher told them as well.
I don't look down on them, instead I strive to understand them and their religion believes.
And in my few research I've come to the conclusion that no religion preacher anything other than peace, it's the human in it that preachers violence due to their own experience and the likes.
Can you marry someone that doesn't believe in God?
That's a no no for me, if you don't believe in God, then I believe there are high likeliness that we don't share anything in common.
I believe in supreme being, and the believe that they're about making this happen for me as kept me going and so someone who doesn't feel such way, can never be my wife.
You are right on the course my brother. Such a kind of marriage could spell doom for the partners. Especially in a continent like Africa where people have been brainwashed by religious fanatics.
For me, even though love exists,a lot of factors ought to be considered before entering a marriage and religion is one of them.
Imagine yourself marrying someone who believes in sacrificing blood on some alters, as exposed and as educated as you are. Men, that's out of this world.
O boy that's gonna be a no no o, sacrifice bi ti bawo, that's why no Matter how much we love such person, we need to come together in agreement on what how we see life and how things are done.
Once you see a red flag in one of such person believe and you know you can't cope or adjust to such way of life then it's better to flee than to go ahead with such marriage.
Marriage is meant to be enjoy not endure.
Omo, bo sé ri niyen ooo. Maka chuckwu.
Define the kind of life you want ro live in marriage is very important.
We should be unequally yoked with an unbeliever.
In the first place, who is an unbeliever?
As a christian, when you marry a person of another faith, you have unequally yoked with darkness.
Never! The best is to respect them and their religion, after all, life is a choice.
Absolutely.
That's just it o.
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@vickoly you forget that marriage is not a human thing, it is rather, a cultural idea. That means that marriage is determined by the culture the couple come from. Humans don't need to be married to reproduce. Marriage is a cultural institution to help fend for the kids when they are born.
So if they both don't have agreeing slants as to their culture, and mind you, religion is a culture too, they cannot stay together.
Religion and culture are two different thing entirely, even though they're almost similar, one of the difference is why you see people of the same culture having different religion.
and like I said, it's my opinion on the issue.
And you need to talk note, no matter the cultural beliefs or religion of a man, he's first human before that and that's why you see people behalf or handle situation differently, so being part of any institute doesn't mean you have to leave your life the way others felt it ought to be.
What doesn't work for A, might work perfectly for me B.
@vickoly you are still missing the juice of the matter.
Humans were not born in isolation. They were born into a civilization, a culture one in which they define their identity. This you can't separate people from their culture and pin them to their humanity alone...
You're misunderstanding me, there several cultural beliefs and nobs in my culture that I choose not to go along with, I don't live my life base on any cultural entity and the likes, I do things the way I deem fit.
It may work for you the way you see it, but not for me.
During the days of Adam and co there weren't any culture, we humans are the one's who institute our own culture not the other way round.
It's true that there are aspects of your culture that you choose not to follow, how about the ones that you still follow without asking questions, the ones you have in your subconscious, the ones you don't even know exist... The ones that affect your decisions subtly without you knowing it?
During the days of Adam, marriage didn't exist as we have it today.
What's my point?
There are things we are all a product of, one of them is culture and marriage is purely cultural in every sense.
So are you driving to the fact that such marriage between different religion can't work, because obviously that was the past you quoted.
Personal I can't get involve in such marriage, but I've seen it work perfectly fine with those people me who dive into it. Even better than most people with same culture or religion.
To me it's all down to the agreement between both parties, and as well the human nature within them to keep to such agreement.
That is exactly my point dear...
One person has to be decieving the other or they could both be decieving the other.... I am only saying, if they both are people who take their religion seriously.
Now I grab your point, and I explained a little more below the part you highlighted;