MY AGE IS ADULT BUT MY POCKET IS NOT(SHOULD PARENTS STILL FEED GROWN CHILDREN?)___WEEK67

Adulthood comes with a lot of responsibilities, and one of them is learning to stand on your own......When we are small, we depend on our parents for everything — food, clothes, school fees, house. That is normal. But as time goes on, we grow, and we are supposed to start carrying our own load.

But here is the truth. Just because we are now adults by age does not mean our pocket is also adult. That is the problem many young people are facing today.

A lot of people graduate from school and search for job for months, even years, and nothing comes. Some learn handwork, but business is slow. Some try small business, but capital is not there. So at the end of the day, they still call home — Mama, please send something. Papa, I need help. And the parents will still send, because they cannot watch their child suffer.

So should parents continue to support their adult children financially?

My honest answer is yes, but with limit.

Parents should not just abandon their adult child because he is 22 or 25. Especially in this country where job is very hard to get....If your child is trying, he is applying, he is hustling, he is learning skill, you should still support him. That support is not spoiling, it is helping him stand.

But there should be a point where it stops being full support. Maybe after school, give your child 1 or 2 years to find his feet. After that, change from full responsibility to partial support. Instead of paying everything, you assist sometimes. That way the child will learn to be serious with his life.

When does parental assistance become too much? It becomes too much when the adult child is lazy. When he doesn't want to work, doesn't want to learn anything, just wakes up, eats, presses phone, and waits for parents to send money. That one is not okay. If you are an adult and you are not even trying, you are becoming a burden.

And for us adult children, we also need to understand our parents. They also have their own bills, their own health, their own needs. They will not be here forever. So while they are helping, we should be planning how to stop depending on them. Don't use opportunity as excuse. Even if opportunities are limited, try something. Sell something, learn online, do freelancing, anything that brings small money.

In my own opinion, parents should support but not carry forever, and adult children should collect support with shame and with plan to stop collecting.

It should be help to grow, not help to remain a child.

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