The Bigger Person

Have you ever been in a problematic situation with someone where you knew if you don't become the bigger person, the other person has no intentions of doing that and the problem goes on?

Being the bigger person in a situation means you'll be the one to stay calm regardless of how pissed off you get, you'll be the kind one when the other is being rude, you'll have to be the selfless one in a situation where the other person gets their way and be respectful to someone who just disrespected you.

Always choosing peace and showing restraint instead of letting the anger and frustration out takes quite a lot of strength and tolerance for people.

It's a sign of self control and high morality but if you're always the one doing that in every situation, at some point it'll be too exhausting for you.

And the problem is that there are people who actually take advantage of kind hearts because they know you won't fight back regardless of how unfair they make the situation for you. They know you want to save the day and be the bigger person and avoid trouble so they use that against you.

What they might do is to keep testing your limits. They'll say something hurtful and if you can take that in and not react because you're trying to be the bigger person, they try something even more hurtful the next time. Until they reach your limit they won't stop. Have a limit because they don't.

They'll also keep blaming you for their mistakes and as long as you accept that, then they'll keep blaming you always.

You are not even helping them by being the bigger person all the time because they'll refuse to change since you'll take all that disrespect from them.

If you're in this situation very often, then it's a sign you're surrounded by too many little people. You have to be the bigger person all the time if you surround yourself with too many little people.

By little, I'm not inferring small in size, or societal status, it's about people that act selfish, petty or immature most of the times.

Such people enjoy drama, they hold grudges a lot and they rarely admit when they are wrong. If you're around people like that all the time, you're bound to get drained, frustrated and unappreciated.

The mature thing you can do is to forgive people but still protect your own peace by keeping a distance from constant trouble. If you identify "the always little person", avoiding them is a good move, that is if you can.

Some people may be unavoidable like if it's your Boss, and he's being "the little person".

You can't have them all out of your life but you can choose to spend more time with people who respect you and also match your effort, by that I mean, respect for respect and they try to also be the bigger person making things fair for you.

You can't fix everyone and as a matter of fact, the only people you can fix are those that allow you to help them change or make the right choices so knowing when to walk away from what hurts you is very important.

Try to limit the "little persons" in your life and for the few, you can endure being the bigger person.

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