Fewer Guests, More Joy: The Rise of Intimate, Crowd-Free Weddings

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Weddings bell all around, at times I do wonder why we need to even do evening celebrations, back in the days of our fore fathers, you just do the necessary wedding rites and off you go, it really don't cost much talkless of you having debt as the first marriage gift, even up till now I still can't understand why it is really hard to do a low-key based wedding nowadays. Checking out Yoruba and Igbo culture and the way all necessary marriage stuff do act as a big burden, I'm at the end of calling it quit or giving up, don't get me wrong, I love attending wedding, ah I so much love wedding food to the extend that I always make sure I eat nothing less than 2 plates if I don't know the couples or anyone at the wedding but if I do, at times it might be 4 with takeaways.

One thing I really detest about weddings is the crowd they always pull in, if you are rich or can afford crowd no problem, it is your money you want to spend as long as it won't end in debt, even most rich people weddings are always coded or strictly by invitation and they always make sure it is like that, less crowd but you see some average people weddings, those who suppose not to have less than 50 people will be the one pulling in more crowd, the wife will be dancing because she is getting married but the husband will be there faking it because of the debt calculations going on in his head. The day I witness a whole wedding preparation, that was the day I know it is impossible to avoid crowd in some weddings.

A lady friend of mine said yes to her man and they started their wedding preparation, after buying the necessary stuff and paid the bride stuff, they decided to prepare for the introduction which was suppose to be a lowkey stuff and on a serious note I was expecting to see nothing more than 30 people at least the two families but boom people that attended were up to 100 if not more, I was even amazed because introduction look like the real engagement ceremony as an observer view. when it reach the main wedding preparation, the husband said it will be strictly by invitations and they even collect some hefty bouncers to bounce people off and they have a card which represent gate pass of only 300 which they shared to their guests, but I knew it won't work out because of what I saw at the introduction ceremony and somehow they prepare extra food for like 400 because we can't really trust yoruba people.

Church wedding alone, everywhere was full, even it is very hard to see where to park your vehicle and the wedding venue, at some point the bouncer where doing their work sending and preventing people without cards from entering the venue, I even saw some big girls faking to call someone because they were giving access and I just stand somewhere wondering how they will be feeling before I know it, people inside with pass will come out, say view words to the bouncer and take their people in, this went on and on and I guess the bouncer were tired at some point and the rest they say is history. If people can cut away crowd at weddings there won't be unnecessary debts at the end of everything and it will surely go smoothly, at times I'm considering wedding in the air, only those with wings will be able to attend.