The Journey Of Emotions And Money

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When it come to money matters, it is one most delicate things we do have mix feelings about, in yoruba we have this belief that money is a like a visitor that come and goes and if not utilize, it might not come again, this kind of saying always bring some kind of fear within us and that fear bring in this emotion that we rarely can give meaning too. Before I really have full understanding of money and emotions it took me a long while, right from childhood all I know is to spend and buy anything that comes to mind, satisfying my cravings but I noticed one thing from my parent especially my dad and that was how he always handle money, you can literally read his emotion and you will figure when he has money and when there is no money with it so he always lectures us to learn to save the little we have for future use and also watch how we spend.

Money is more than just a currency, it defined a lot of things ranging from our security, to opportunities we get and to even define our identity and class ( rich or poor), the joy whenever we earn and that mixed feeling we always have when ever billings keep knocking at our doorsteps. The first time I started having emotion about money was when I started working and was receiving less than a dollar as my wages, it wasn't enough and spending it was kind of hard because I have to give myself 99 reasons why I should spend the money instead of saving it. No matter how many money we have, the major problem we face is how to really manage our finances, because no matter how much we have, we will always have to spend if not on ourselves but on others.

There was a time someone brought up a question "Will you ever disclose how much you worth or how much money you have to someone closer to you", the major answer we got that day was NO, I was shocked but not that surprise because I know why most of them say no, disclosing how much you worth to someone will bring no benefit but attract billings. I don't know who start such stuff but people will always run to you for help if they know you have one kind of money and if you can't help them, you will look like a stingy or a bad person. There was this friend of mine who was always nice to everyone financially, he doesn't know how to say no whenever he have money and due to this niceness, people started preying on him, anytime they need help, he was always their first option until the day he got broke and those he helped turned him down, he actually learnt the hard way, not all that you help will be willing to help you back.

Having control over my emotion in terms of money was really hard phase for me, I literally cry anytime I lost any amount of money, I remembered when I got scam for the first time when I was too desperate of making money online, I still can't put an explanation to why someone will even think of scamming me because of 5$, at that time I was really pained because it was my last card but I couldn't do anything, at some point when I dive into crypto and started earning little, I couldn't take some risk because I was somehow scared I will loose it all until I tried out forex trading, we win some, we lose some, we just have to find a way to make sure our wins is more than the lose. I had to learn one way or the other and finally understand that having too much emotions attached to money is really a bad thing.In life, Money and Emotions interconnect.